Are you worried about “snooping?” Your current situation has brought you to these pages about conducting secret drug tests on your child. There is a lot of popular press that calls home-based drug testing “snooping.” I’m here to tell you that you can choose to tell your child or not tell your child about your drug testing activities. It’s a personal decision and it should reflect on your family needs not the popular opinion of others. Using the following scenarios, we make suggestions regarding the effectiveness of telling or not telling your child about your drug-testing activities.
1: you are a pro-active parent and you want to deter your child from using drugs. In this scenario it’s most effective to tell your child that you will conduct regular and random drug tests. Have an open discussion. Download, print and sign our free Family Contract For Prevention. This family contract is a Word document that you can modify to meet your needs or use it as it is. Many kids appreciate the parental involvement and find it easier to avoid bad situations by saying, “No, I can’t do that because I get drug-tested when I get home.” An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
2: you are a suspicious parent who is seeing signs of potential drug use in your child and you want to do something about it. Your suspicions are so strong that you are beginning to worry throughout the day and night. You wish you could get answers to confirm your questions about whether your child is using drugs. For this scenario, we suggest that you use the Secret Drug Tests that we sell at http://secretdrugtest.com and don’t tell your child. In the scenario of being suspicious about potential drug use, you want to be able to conduct the drug tests in secret because you want honest answers. If your child is using drugs, he or she will not be open and honest about this activity. Secret drug testing will give you instant, accurate answers.
If you get a drug-present result, you should begin planning how to handle your next steps. Read both parent guides from DrugFree.org, which is an authoritative site dedicated to drug-free kids and homes. Click the following links to download their two helpful guides on intervention and treatment to help you prepare for an effective conversation that leads to getting the help you and your child need. These guides will help you become educated not only about the signs and symptoms of drug use but also regarding effective action steps for getting help.
If you get a drug-not-present result, you may or may not be convinced at the findings based on your observations and situation. If you think your child is using drugs, you may want to continue conducting secret drug testing at more regular intervals to get an accurate picture of your child’s potential drug usage.
3: is a scenario of empowerment and hope for the parent of a child who is a confirmed drug user or a former drug user. The secret drug testing will give the parent accurate answers as to whether the child is remaining drug-free as promised. For parents who have already endured the consequences of living with a drug addicted child, you know the living nightmare this causes. If your child is drug-free and you wish to allow him/her to return to your home to live, you can conduct secret drug testing to know for sure that your home is indeed drug-free. Secret drug testing will give you some peace of mind when allowing a known drug-addicted child to return to living in the household either during or after completion of a drug rehabilitation program.
We recommend three steps for the parents involved in this scenario to regain a sense of comfort and assurance that the household will remain drug-free. This first step involves having an open and honest discussion with the child and the family who lives within the household. This discussion will result in a clear understanding of family expectations as well as a clear statement of the consequences if the child returns to drug-using activities. The second step is to sign a family contract to solidify this conversation. Download the free Family Contract for Remaining Drug Free and modify it or use it as is. The family contract includes all of the details of the agreement and the consequences. The effective family contract is agreed to and signed by the parent(s) and the child who has vowed to remain drug-free. Additionally, it is useful to ask all family members to sign the contract and make a commitment to be of assistance to the family. Ask for additional commitment from extended family members as well. This improves the effectiveness of the contract. The third phase of providing peace and the assurance of a drug-free household in a formerly drug-using household involves conducting drug testing. This drug testing should be both regular and random so the drug tests accurately reflect whether this household is indeed drug-free, as expected. It is your house, not your child’s. If you want to live in a drug-free household, it is within your rights to do so. Children are “invited guests” and if they choose to return to drug-use, the privilege of living under your roof can be revoked.